When it comes to the topic of relationships, there are always some myths that everyone has heard. Let’s look at a few of them:
“If it’s meant to be, it’ll just happen”
Nope. Not even a little bit. Relationships take work and intent. You cannot just go through life believing that you can just sit there and a partner will magically appear in front of you simply because you were “meant to be”.
This goes double for those who are already in a relationship yet do not want to put in any effort in restoring good faith. If you mess up, it would be important to own up to it, apologize, and actively aim to amend your mistake.
“You should never go to bed angry”
This myth was perpetuated by people who love to badger other people. When you make a mistake, it is often best to give your significant other some space. While this does not mean that you should not try to talk to them, if they tell you that they’re not ready, it is important to respect that.
No one should be pressed to make up simply for the sake of “not going to bed angry”.
“You should know what you did wrong”
Have you ever had that experience where your loved one is mad at you but you have no clue why? Then all of a sudden, you’re supposed to know what you did wrong. This is honestly one of the silliest relationship myths still alive today.
The erring party isn’t a mind reader. You will actually need to use words to tell them what they did wrong or how they can make up for it. Those who are immature cling to the notion of “you should know what you did”.
Relationships require work and everyone has their own rules. Don’t fall prey to silly myths, okay?
A lot of people are more concerned with “how to get your ex boyfriend back” and very few have actually taken the time to assess the situation, strategically analyze the pre-events and the malfunctions that have plagued you daily while you were with your ex boyfriend. No one knows if you were having the time of your life and carelessly mismanaged a very simple situation leading to the termination of the relationship, or that the guy in question was a no-good smooth operator who was literally killing you softly and you just didn’t have the heart to let go because you had a few thing to gain from the relationship, which was anything but happiness.
No one knows any of this information except you so it is imperative to put your happiness, safety and comfort first before any other thing. If upon deep thought and reminiscence, you have decided that he is best for you and you want him back, after considering other possible potentials of course, you have truly decided then it is time to open up history books again and see what can be used in your favor.
The best and most possible way to get your ex boyfriend back is to stay confident and positive. Learn to compromise and make little sacrifices, be sensitive to his needs as well and show interest at things that concern him, and most importantly be spontaneous! A lot of relationships quit because that fire has been completely doused. There is no spontaneity, no challenge and nothing to look forward to. Recreate yourself, go out of your way to do things that are unusual, change your looks and be the best of yourself. That thing that attracted him to you initially will bring him back to you.